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.The teenager started to steal and stay out late and his mother would shout at him and encourage his father to do the same.Garry retreated more and more into a fantasy world fuelled by sniffing large quantities of glue.He also started to masturbate outside the home of a girl he fancied.(Men who grow up to be rapists, child molesters or sex killers are often Peeping Toms from a very early age.) He felt unsure of himself around women but he was desperate to have sex.Six weeks after his father’s death, Garry had yet another argument with his mother about his glue addiction.Deciding to kill her, he battered her over the head with a metal bar.The assault fractured her skull but she was still breathing so he raced to another room for a knife and slit her throat then had intercourse with the still-warm corpse.He’d later explain that ‘I had Mother’s dead body there.There was nothing left to do but make use of it.’ So, at eighteen years of age, he entered his mother’s corpse and lost his virginity.A psychiatrist later said it was likely that the boy was a psychopath but that he wasn’t insane.He was sentenced to twenty-five years in prison for this sexual killing.Early sexual experimentationIt’s entirely normal for children to become interested in sex as they mature and most children will play doctor and nurses games as a way of finding out about their own and others’ bodies.But children who are sexually abused will be much more extreme in their search for a sexual outlet, and more likely to use force.Psychologist Patrick Carnes has written that ‘masturbation is an essential part of being a sexual person.’ He found that many sex addicts come from proscriptive families who often see masturbation as a sin.Ironically, people from such disapproving families are often inappropriately sexually active when they grow up.Carnes tells the story of a Lutheran minister who picked up men in the park for casual sex, despite the fact that he found these encounters humiliating.He was badly beaten up, but continued cruising – and only sought help after having sex with one of his young parishioners who he feared might tell.Another man, who went on to molest his children’s babysitters, had been sent to confession as a child where his penis was fondled by a paedophile priest.The priest said that Gene wasn’t supposed to touch himself as masturbation was a sin.Sibling sexual abuseOften such abused children carry similar abuses out on their younger brothers and sisters.Serial killer Rose West was sexually abused by her father and went on, in turn, to masturbate one of her younger brothers.One of Robert Thompson’s brothers was investigated for sexual assaults on a younger child.Mary Bell carved letters, post mortem, on one of her little victims – and it’s very likely that she was copying her mother who, as a sado-masochistic prostitute, might have been asked to carry out scarification (cutting for erotic purposes) on the flesh of her male clients.When normal development takes place, sexual exploration is healthy and simply gives rise to pleasure.But with abused children, masturbation also becomes a form of desperately-needed self-comfort.As a result, this masturbation will be frenziedly carried out as a replacement for parental love and nurturing.As such, it becomes something pathological rather than something good.As so much is wrong with the child’s life, the urge to masturbate can become all encompassing in a futile attempt to put things right.These children can become addicted to sex by the time they are adults, and are unable to cut down on self-pleasuring even when they’ve made their genitals bleed.Unfortunately most reportage of child sex offenders doesn’t include details of what they’ve endured, only of their crimes.For example, in November 2001, an eleven-year-old boy was tried at Cardiff Crown Court for sexually assaulting an eight-year-old girl.He was found guilty and placed on the sex offenders register for two and a half years (but found not guilty of unlawful sexual intercourse) with the judge commenting that the boy knew he’d done wrong.It would have been helpful if his background had also been reported so that readers could understand what made a child offend so seriously at such a young age.Similarly, a programme about the crimes of Robert Black – whilst offering first class information about his crimes and their effect on the victim’s parents – said only of his own tragic life that he’d had a troubled history.Animal sexual abuseSometimes the person who has been frequently abused gives up on people altogether and turns to animals for sexual experimentation.One woman who’d had a terrible childhood wrote a fan letter to serial killer John Wayne Gacy in which she admitted that she liked to ‘jerk off’ her dog.And a documentary about bestiality included a man who had been so strictly raised by his Christian Fundamentalist parents that he found women terrifying and preferred to have sex with a horse.That said, this man felt romantic love for his horse and would have strongly objected to their ‘relationship’ being labelled as animal abuse.In fairness, it should also be noted that brutalised children don’t always remain cruel towards animals.Often they are animal lovers who, after removal from their abusive backgrounds, grow to love animals again.Aware of this, violence expert Gavin de Becker launched and continues to fund a scheme called Patient’s Pets which gives criminals of all ages in secure hospitals access to small animals.He’s seen for himself how some of these violent men from violent homes have broken their hearts over the death of a guinea pig.He writes that ‘many of these men will be locked up for life without a visitor and a mouse or bird might be all they have.’An article by Peter J Lewis published in the Insider magazine backs this up.It told of how staff at a maximum security centre in Ohio allowed the inmates on one ward to keep pets and ‘within a year suicide attempts were down to zero, and prescribed medication down by a half.’ The pets in prison scheme was so successful during its various American trials that it has now been adopted by South Africa, Australia and Spain [ Pobierz całość w formacie PDF ]